I’m still quite attached to the name my parents gave me, Jeff (well okay, that’s the diminutive form of my given name, but close enough). That name’s not dead, and I don’t intend to kill it. But it’s been joined by two others.
My first chosen name was Jess. When I still thought I was cis, a forum community I was part of ended up playing host to some genderbending roleplay shenanigans, and so my genderbent name was Jess. Turns out roleplaying as yourself genderbent is a good way to end up questioning your gender. When I came out as nonbinary, I decided to keep Jess(ica) as a feminine name and Jeff(rey) as a masculine one.
A couple years later I ended up wanting a neutral sounding name as well. I settled on Jay. That ended up becoming the name I use most often online now.
And then middle names. I’m the third generation on my dad’s side to have the initials JWL, so I wanted to keep that with my chosen names. First I landed on Jessica Willow. But good neutral sounding names starting with W are hard to find. For a while I was Jay Wynn Logan. I was never quite satisfied with “Wynn” though. And as a certain trans YouTuber with that as a surname has kept having controversies mostly over being exorsexist I grew outright uncomfortable with it even though my name choice had nothing to do with her. So as of last night, my full names are Jeffrey W[redacted] Logan, Jessica Willow Logan, and Jay Wren Logan. This new middle name already feels much better than Wynn ever did.